My friend Jon Daniels is the pastor of the Country Woods Baptist Church in Byram, Mississippi. His advice on marriage is well worth the time you will spend reading it:
Satan is targeting marriages right now as viciously as I’ve ever seen. In just the last 2 days, I’ve been made aware of 3 marriages of Christian people that are in deep, deep trouble. If you are married, then LOVE YOUR SPOUSE!!! It’s not just something you FEEL, but something you DO!!!
– Keep your eyes ONLY on her/him!!! Don’t look at porn…Don’t go see “Magic Mike”…Don’t let your eyes linger long when an attractive person of the opposite sex walks by.
– DO NOT talk to someone of the opposite sex about your marriage problems, unless it is your Pastor. Even then, your Pastor should not talk to you if there are not other people around.
– Get into the Word & get the Word into you! Hear it…Read it…Study it…Memorize it…Meditate on it…Apply it!!!
– Pray FOR your spouse, & pray WITH your spouse!!! Husbands SHOULD lead out in this.
– If you’re not in church, GET IN CHURCH!!! Worship Jesus WITH your spouse!!! Get off the ballfield, off the lake, out of the woods, out of bed, out of the yard, & GET IN CHURCH (or BACK in church)!!!
– Don’t hang out w/ people who have low views of marriage or of their own spouse. Their thoughts can & will infect your thoughts. Satan will make sure of that, I promise! Seen it too many times!
– MEN – Man up…Grow up…Stand up…& LEAD YOUR FAMILY!!! Quit being a spiritual wimp & do what your supposed to do. FIGHT FOR YOUR WIFE!!! I promise you that Satan is fully planning to completely destroy her!!!
– LADIES – Let him lead you!!! We, men, want to be your knight in shining armor…even after all these years!!!
– If you’re in trouble in your marriage, GET SOME HELP!!! No marriage is perfect, so get over yourself, get over your pride, quit pretending it’s going to get better, & get some help!!! There are a ton of great Christian counselors out there who can help. But you’ve got to make the 1st move!!!
Think about it like this: has the church in the United States ever had a more advantageous time to stand in stark contrast to the world? To distinguish itself from the prevailing morality, to present a true counter-culture, to model the gospel? When we had greater numbers and political influence the world thought our great concern was numbers and political influence. If we profess Christ and stand on the Word when it cost us dearly however, then even our detractors and persecutors will see that it is not about us, but about our Savior.
The first marriage was between a perfect man and a perfect woman. The last marriage was between a glorified man, the Lord Jesus, and His sanctified bride, the church. Between these two weddings, humanity has marred and defaced the institution of marriage in many ways, including this new way. But the Lord Jesus will have the last say.
Until then, I am doing all I can to make my marriage to reflect the love of Christ for His church and to share the gospel of grace with everyone. No handwringing, no fear, no hatred, no bitterness. Just love of the Lord Jesus, of the truth, of my wife, of the Lord’s church, of my neighbor, ALL of my neighbors. Though something in our culture has definitely changed, everything in the Word of God remains the same. I rest in that. It may seem like we have hit bottom. By God’s grace we are about to discover there is a Rock down there.
–Hershael York, pastor in Kentucky
The bride was escorted down the aisle and when she reached the altar, the groom was standing there with his golf bag and clubs at his side.
She said, “What are your golf clubs doing here?”
He looked her right in the eye and said, “This isn”t going to take all day, is it?
Praying For Your Spouse
A Christian woman had a husband who had forbidden her to speak to him about Jesus.
So she took his case to God. She told herself, “I am going to pray for his conversion every day for twelve months.”
At the end of a year his heart had not softened a bit. She said, “I am going to keep on six months longer.”
She did. Still there was no change and she considered giving up. Finally she said, “No. I will pray for him as long as God gives me breath.”
That very day he came home from work and disappeared into his room for a long time. She grew concerned and peeked in. He was on his knees seeking God’s forgiveness.
–Bill Tucker with Pat Maxwell, “Living a Power-filled Life”